Hey there,
It's Tuesday and we're already deep into the week. If you want to call it that.
When I think of the most successful people I have known, they were extremely proactive when it came to showing their gratitude. They have figured out how the world works. They practice, knowingly or unknowingly, what the old school success gurus called “an attitude of gratitude.”
Their attitude is attractive.
It attracts positive responses. It attracts opportunities. It attracts people and good faith too, because they show their gratitude, with no hidden motives.
The attitude of ingratitude is the exact opposite.
It repels.
It’s ugly.
It leaves the person who helped you, feeling unrecognized, which is a really stupid move! Why?
Because recognition is one of the basic human needs. I've really started to study human nature. I think I've always studied it, but now I am aware of me actually doing it and it's much more powerful since I'm finally figuring it out.
People need to feel recognized. It's a basic instinct, but they like it. That's why it's important to us to hear the word Thank You. Napoleon famously said that his men would fight for money, but they would die for a ribbon (or medal). That’s the power of recognition. You might want to think about that today when you're saying your thank yous.
The attitude of fake gratitude is just as bad. It says “thanks” – But with strings attached. It’s usually very, very transparent. It’s about taking, not contributing.
In many cases, it is NOT that someone isn’t grateful for what another person has done for them that stops them saying “thank you.” It’s often that they either feel a little embarrassed about saying thanks or don’t realize just how much it matters.
Amazing things happen when we look for opportunities to make other people feel recognized. That goes for patients, customers, and clients.
Taking time to thank those who help, inspire or support us is a great place to start.
Interestingly, as with many things in life, by making other people feel better, we make ourselves feel better too. It's mentioned in the Bible and it's even mentioned by Solomon.
I’m sure that one of the reasons I have never had any stress related issues, is that this contribution approach to dealing with people makes the business of business a lot more friendly and enjoyable.
Why not find a few people right now, who have helped, inspired or supported you and send them a quick “thank you” note, email or message. I personally THINK a handwritten note or postcard is best because it tells you that I think enough of you to take the time to actually write you a note. WOW. People just don't do that often enough anymore, so something that simple really stands out.
….Oh, and THANK YOU for reading! I do appreciate it. I hope you know I really do.
Sincerely,
Dr. Carney
Life is good when you know what marketing can do for you!!
It is a GREAT LIFE!
