Just found this and thought I'd share.... enjoy!!!

12:35 PM
Tuesday
time flys....

November 1, 2011

Here's an entry I found and I have to share it
with you since I just deleted one.

The other one was about the GAME, but this one is
good as well. If you missed the last one, shame on
you. If you read it, good for you.

Here's what I found.

It's not about me, but it has some great points.

Enjoy.

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I’m about to share a very personal experience
with you.

This is not something I’ve always felt comfortable
doing but my hope is that many of you will relate
as well as benefit from some powerful lessons I’ve
recently learned—lessons learned not by choice.

Some months ago I became involved in a relationship.

In spite of my initial hesitation and after being
patiently but ardently pursued by the other person
I slowly let go and began to trust that it could work.

I began to open up to trust and love.

Things seemed to be blossoming until I began to see
subtle signs that he might not be capable of fully
participating in a deeply intimate and emotionally
committed relationship even though he desired it.

Unfortunately I ignored the signs, hoping that maybe
an open two-way communication could resolve the bumps
along the road even though I could feel my serenity
slipping away.

Not long afterward I returned from vacation and found a
message waiting for me in my email inbox from this person
suddenly ending the relationship, and with only a vague
explanation.

Wow.

My immediate reaction was hurt, shock and disappointment
that commitment and trust could be so lightly discarded.

I always like to see the best in people and assume they
will honor the trust you’ve given them, or at least be
able to have an open and honest conversation if they can’t.

However not everyone is capable of this because, let’s
face it, open and transparent communication can be scary
and it takes a certain type of courage.

Most of us have probably been in this place of heartbreak
and sadness but I determined that I would not get stuck there.

I immediately turned to what I call my “transform-it toolkit”.

These are the tools I have mindfully chosen that can create a
true mindset and heart-set shift so I can accept what is, and
create inner change.

Your toolkit can include regular practices that work for you
such as: meditation, prayer, contemplation, nature walks, yoga,
reading inspirational books or scriptures that help you shift,
and powerful conversation with loving, safe, trustworthy and
non-judgmental friends.

Using your toolkit regularly is what keeps you emotionally and
spiritually open to amazing possibilities in your life that
you can’t even imagine because you haven’t experienced them yet.

The purpose of this toolkit is to help lead you quickly toward
healing and toward total honesty with yourself.

You see, it’s easy to get stuck in anger, blame or sadness,
or simply shut off your feelings but I knew that wasn’t where
I wanted to stay because I chose to live in joy.

My toolkit helps me quickly release old pain, anger, shame,
guilt, sadness or indifference and reveal these 4 Big Truths–

1.Everything happens for a reason. Our job is to figure out
the reason and the lesson

2.Everything that happens holds a mirror up to me to show me
where I need to change and be more honest with myself.

It can be hard to swallow and I may chose to ignore it and
stay in my comfort zone, but I do so at the expense of never
knowing deeper love, greater joy or never feeling or experiencing
life fully

3.Each person is at a different place on the path we all travel
toward knowing ourselves fully and being emotionally mature,
open and loving. If we each try to respect where the other is,
then we can let them move at their pace, not ours, even if that
means leaving them behind.

4.I am totally responsible for the life I create and how I react
to every situation that occurs in my life.

So when that unexpected email landed in my in-box signaling the
end of my relationship my first step was to surround myself with
loving, spiritually grounded friends to get some perspective on
the situation.

* What is the reason and what is the lesson?
* Where is the situation a mirror I need to hold up to myself? What judgment have I made of the other (person or situation) that also mirrors something I need to look at in myself?
* How can I accept the other—the person or situation I’ve judged—as being exactly where they are, not where I want them to be?
* How can I surrender the person or situation and let it go with light and love, even when I know it’s not what I would have wished, but it is WHAT IS.
* How can I use this new understanding of myself to transform my life, my situation, my relationships, my business for the better?

Other “tools” that reinforce this work for me are meditation and contemplation.

One of several revelations I had was that I needed to express –and stay grounded in–the essence of who I am more openly and powerfully in my life.

Just like your life, your business is a reflection of you. If your thoughts and beliefs about yourself, your relationships or your situation are limiting; if you are blaming others and not looking in the mirror; if you are hiding from the truth so you don’t have to feel emotional discomfort, then how can you fully express who you are in the world?

So what do you do when you’re hurt, frustrated, stuck or discouraged? You get out your “Transform It Toolkit” and put it to work for you.

And yes, it takes courage, time and patience to be open and vulnerable, to admit mistakes, to change old habits and beliefs that are closing you off from the life you want to live. And this means—to borrow a phrase used by several of my colleagues—you have to put on your Big Girl (or Big Boy) Panties! But you do need to chose—do you want to simply survive or do you want to thrive.

There are some GEMS in this person's thoughts.

I may not agree with all of them, and IF I do, I won't tell you in this blog. I mean, hey some things have to be private. Or I could be crazy and post my life on FACEBOOK. Give me a break.

But with that said, have a GREAT DAY.

Dr. Carney